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October 4, 2016 by Laura Diehl 2 Comments

The Dreaded Anniversary Date

We are just a few days away from the five year anniversary of the death of my daughter, Becca. Like the rest of you, the first year was so very painful. The second year was shockingly worse, as if that were even possible! The third year was still painful, but the reality of having to learn who I was without my oldest child was setting in. Last year I did “okay,” but this five-year-thing has me very fragile.

What is it that makes this so hard? Is it because five 20150413_123127cyears seems such a long time? Is it because buried somewhere deep within me I know this is just the beginning? Is it because I have tried for the last three years to make sure my other children don’t think I loved Becca more than them, so when at home I do my best to pretend I am fine 95% of the time? Is it because my previous son-in-law took down her Facebook page saying five years was long enough and we need to move on (like he has with a new wife and son) so now I can no longer visit her there?

Or is the real reason the simple fact that I gave birth to her, raised her for 18 years, had her for one of my best friends for the next 11 years, and then in one moment’s time it was all taken away from me, and it just plain hurts, no matter how long it has been since she left us?

I find myself crying out to God at how desperately I still need Him for this grief I still struggle with. And what comes to me in the quietness of my soul is that a change in perspective can be very powerful.

Here are some of the things God reminds me of that can ease my pain, and make life livable again.

  1. I am not getting further away from Becca with each year. I am getting closer to her, as each day brings me closer to my own departure to be with her again.
  2. It’s only stuff. Yes, it is Becca’s stuff that I no longer have access to on Facebook, but no one can take away the part of her that lives forever in my heart, my mind, my memories… my very soul!
  3. While 29 years was not enough, it WAS! It happened! I was blessed with this daughter who brought so much joy (and many challenges with her stubbornness) to my life. I can finally say I would rather have had her for only 29 years than to not have had her at all.

I still cry, I still hurt (sometimes very deeply), but I also rejoice that this life is only temporary. And that leads me to the last change in perspective I want to share with you.

The anniversary of Becca’s death is also the day of her birth – her birth into a new body with both legs (her left leg was amputated because of bone cancer at age three) and a heart that is strong that no longer keeps her life so limited (since Becca suffered heart damage from the chemo, which is what eventually ended her life).  She didn’t get someone else’s used heart in a transplant that she so desperately needed here on earth. She got a brand new one that will never go bad on her again.

Painful grieving? Yes. But without hope? No.

So with that I will say, “Happy heavenly fifth birthday, Becca!”17903-balloons-pv

Expressions of Hope is written by author and speaker Laura Diehl to bring hope, light and life to bereaved parents, which she call pareavors. (Pa from the word parent, and reave from the root word bereave which means “plundered or robbed, deprive one of, seized, carry, or tear away.”) This is a pretty good description of who we are and what has happened to us.

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August 17, 2016 by Laura Diehl Leave a Comment

Is Faith Our Golden Ticket? Part 2

Have you ever been told the reason something bad is happening in your life is because you either don’t have enough faith, or because you are not walking in your God-given Kingdom authority?

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Yes, there are times those things are true.  But having enough faith or authority does not mean we will never again be affected by this sinful, fallen world in a way that hurts or shatters us. Eventually, those who hold to this Christian “golden ticket” belief either become angry with God for failing them, or they condemn themselves when something devastating happens and try to figure out what they did wrong.

This article is actually part two of this discussion. If you have not read part one, I recommend you read Is Faith Our Golden Ticket to a Good Life? Part One and then return to continue reading Part 2.

As I said last week, there are many scriptures to support how our faith stops the enemy, and learning how to walk in our Kingdom authority is powerful and effective against the enemy’s advances against us.

But does that mean if something which is obviously evil and not from God hits us, we are at fault for not being strong enough in faith or authority to stop it?

Let’s look at the Word of God to consider an answer to this question.

Moses was instructed directly by God to go back to Egypt to release the people of Israel from slavery and lead them into the land they were promised (which had been promised 400 years earlier and instead they became slaves in a foreign land). As Moses obeyed God, it got worse for the people as Pharaoh came down hard on them before they were released (Exodus 3-13). After they got their breakthrough and were set free, God led them crossing_of_red_sea___pastels_by_pawlis-d4b3hspspecifically to a place where they were cornered by the enemy, and once again things looked much worse after God stepped in and started leading them. They were very upset, not knowing that God had a bigger plan. God performed a miracle, causing the water to separate, giving the people an escape route (Exodus 14). None of these events had anything to do with the people’s lack of faith, and everything to do with God having a plan that could not be seen at the time of extreme difficulty.

Then there is always Job. Can you believe God called Satan’s attention to Job, and then allowed Satan to mess with him in such devastating ways? It didn’t matter how much faith Job had in God’s goodness; the Lord had lifted His “hedge of protection” from Job and let the enemy attack him time after time. He lost his wealth, his children and his health (Job 1, 2). And in the end, God restored Job’s health, wealth, and gave him more children (Job 42).

Okay, so those examples were under the old covenant. What about in the New Testament?

Well, what about when Jesus told Peter, “Satan has asked for you, that he may sift you as wheat. But I have prayed for you, that your faith should not fail; and when you have returned to Me, strengthen your brethren.” (Luke 22: 31-31 NKJV). Jesus didn’t tell Peter, “When the enemy comes to attack you, just take your God-given authority and use your faith to cast him off and all will be well”. Yes, Peter was later filled with the Holy Spirit and grew immensely in his faith, but that was still not a golden ticket to a world with no trials or instant deliverance for any of the apostles.

And then there is the Apostle Paul. If there was anyone who knew how to walk in faith and his God-given authority, he was the man.  Paul is also the one who wrote the most about our faith and our authority, instructing us to grow in these areas to defeat the enemy. And yet Paul, himself, tells us he has had “…far greater labors, far more imprisonments, with countless beatings, and often near death.  Five times I received at the hands of the Jews the forty lashes less one. Three times I was beaten Pieter_Mulier_A_Ship_Wrecked_in_a_Storm_off_a_Rocky_Coastwith rods. Once I was stoned. Three times I was shipwrecked; a night and a day I was adrift at sea; on frequent journeys, in danger from rivers, danger from robbers, danger from my own people, danger from Gentiles, danger in the city, danger in the wilderness, danger at sea, danger from false brothers; in toil and hardship, through many a sleepless night, in hunger and thirst, often without food, in cold and exposure.” 2 Corinthians 11:23-27 ESV). Was all of this because Paul had not yet learned how to have enough faith to keep these things from happening to him? I highly doubt it.

The story of Shadrach, Meshach, and Abednego has been brought to my attention several times lately (which is actually what prompted me to write this article).  When threatened with death, their famous answer was, “If we are thrown into the blazing furnace, the God we serve is able to deliver us from it, and he will deliver us from Your Majesty’s hand. But even if he does not, we want you to know, Your Majesty, that we will not serve your gods or worship the image of gold you have set up” (Daniel 3:17-18 NIV). It seems these three gave that “cop-out” answer of “if it’s God’s will” which some of us have been told shows a lack of faith in God’s Word and stops Him from moving in our lives.

When I recently heard this story once again in a Sunday morning message, it caused me to think of those in Hebrews 11. This entire chapter lists out those who stood in faith and gained what was promised, and also those who did not live to see the answer they were standing in faith to see. What’s up with that?

I want to go back to what I said in part one of this open Biblediscussion. Faith and trust can be interchanged. I can have a bold faith in scriptures I have picked out, believing God is going to do exactly what those scriptures promise. Or I can have a trust that comes from knowing my God intimately, so that when I stand on the promises in His word, I also turn the situation over to Him, knowing He is in full control, no matter what I see, feel, or hear.

Sometimes, I believe our faith can get in the way of God’s greater plan. Most of our growth actually comes through adversity. When God knows a greater good can come from the trial, sometimes He will trump our faith and authority with His greater good, especially when we have a heart that wants His will to be done over our own will.

In other words, God doesn’t need our opinions or demands (sometimes disguised as “faith”) in order to do His job.  He needs our trust.  He needs our belief in His ability to see, know, and do, what we cannot see, we cannot know, and we cannot do.

I have not said all of this to discount faith, or to discourage anyone from growing in learning how to walk in our God-given authority. These things are a must! I have written this to remind us that God is still bigger than our faith and our authority. He is sovereign and has the final word on everything. If you have done all you know to do, trust God with the outcome. This is especially true when your faith is met with resistance, or the opposite happens of what you were believing in faith. Don’t’ quit and don’t blame God for being God.

As someone who knows what he is talking about has written, “Having done all, stand!”

20150501_104633Gems from the Crown is a weekly blog from Crown of Glory Ministries to strengthen and encourage believers in Christ in their walk with God, especially in the areas of vision, authority, and identity. If you would like to have Gems from the Crown delivered directly to you, please click here.

 

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August 9, 2016 by Laura Diehl Leave a Comment

God Really is Everywhere!

Psalm 139:7-12 talks about how God is everywhere; that there is not a single place we can go to get away from Him.

How do we know this is true? We can’t see God, InflatableBalloonsso how do we know God really is everywhere? Let’s think about some things you know are there, even though you can’t see it. There is electricity. You can see a light turn on because of electricity, but you can’t actually see the electricity. How about air? You might see a balloon filled with air, or feel the wind, but you can’t actually see the air. Have you ever smelled something horrible, like a skunk, but not actually seen what was causing the bad smell?

night-315204_960_720That is similar to how we know God is everywhere. We can see the result of Him being around us. People, plants, animals, the ocean, the sun, moon and stars are all things God created. We are completely surrounded by what we CAN see, what God continues to create and holds together. Are you breathing? That breath comes from God giving it to you.

God really is everywhere! Some people don’t like that, but it is actually a very good thing, because that means whenever we need Him to help us, to be with us, to fight for us, He is always right there. That isn’t just a good thing; it is totally and completely awesome!

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August 3, 2016 by Laura Diehl 2 Comments

Is Faith Our Golden Ticket to a Good Life?

Some believers in Christ are taught that being a Christian is like having a golden ticket to a good life. They are told when we trust God and “stand on His Word” nothing bad will happen to us or our family (based on Scripture verses), that we will receive an instant miraculous healing in our bodies (based on lots of healing verses in the Bible), that our finances will be overflowing with abundance (once again, based on Bible verses) and…well, you get the idea.

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Some of us have been told if these positive things don’t happen, it is because we either don’t have enough faith, or we are not using our authority in Christ. Now let me stop and say before I go any further that I believe God’s Word is absolute truth! Every Word of it! And I also believe we have been given the authority of Christ on this earth, no doubt about it! And I also don’t have full understanding of God and His Word, just like everyone else!

Back in 1985, our three year old daughter was diagnosed with cancer, facing having her tiny left leg amputated and going through chemotherapy.  I was convinced if I had enough faith, she would be healed. I told anybody and everybody she was going to be healed and not need the amputation. My thought process was the more I spoke it out in faith, and the more people I told, the more God would have to honor His Word and heal her. Our church also did forty days of prayer and fasting for her healing (along with two other women who had also been diagnosed with cancer).

1280px-X-ray_table (2)The morning the amputation was scheduled, x-rays were taken, to make sure they knew exactly where to make the cut on her leg. I was sure someone would come back shocked, saying the tumor was gone, and therefore no need for the amputation or any further chemo.

That didn’t happen, and I can still picture her looking over the shoulder of the big male nurse who had taken her out of my arms to carry her back for the procedure, as she waved slowly to us. That memory still grips my heart and can bring tears to my eyes.

For a long time, I questioned what I did wrong that left my daughter still needing this horrible procedure which would affect her for the rest of her life. We also had some Christians telling us we must not have had enough faith, or that we needed to learn how to walk in more of our God-given authority. People were giving us books on these subjects to “help” us. (I look back at it now and think how awful a response that was from some in the Body of Christ!)

Guess what I have learned over the years? Faith is almost cjb_coverexactly the same thing as trust. As a matter of fact, in the Complete Jewish Bible, you will never see the word faith. It is always translated as trust. For example, Hebrews 1:1 says, “Trusting is being confident of what we hope for, convinced about things we do not see.”

This has given me a whole new revelation which has answered so many questions in the arena of my “faith walk”, including when my daughter died.

I have always felt like faith is something I have to figure out how to have enough of, based on what I do. Things like, “Faith comes by hearing the Word of God” (Romans 10:17). I have to either be speaking out the Word or listening to someone preaching a lot throughout my day to build up my faith big enough to have no more problems. But I can never quite seem to get to the point where I do it enough to have that perfect life some Christians say the Bible tells us we are supposed to have.  Anyone else ever feel that way?

When I realized the truth, that trust can be equated as having faith, it changed everything! I no longer had to figure out how to conjure up enough faith.  I just needed to learn how to trust God more.  I can do that so much easier!

And so the adventure began of learning how to trust my Abba Father God, which was essentially learning how to rest in my Daddy God’s incredible and extravagant love for me.

As I said earlier, rather abruptly, my daughter died (twenty-six years later from heart damage caused by the chemotherapy). Once again, I felt blindsided, because I truly believed God was going to heal her heart (either miraculously, or through a needed heart transplant). But this time it was different. My faith was not an audacious presumption that God was a genie to grant my wishes, using the Bible as my lamp to rub. This time it was based on a precious trust I had come to have, in knowing my Daddy God in a very deep and personal way.

When I asked Him about the fact that my faith was not met with the healing of my daughter, He gave me the most precious answer I could have had. (And it was not the Christian cliché answer, “He did answer your prayer because she is healed now in heaven.”) He reminded me of Hebrews 11:6, that without faith it is impossible to please Him. And He told me that my faith – my trust – had brought Him so much pleasure! Wow! I was amazed and in awe that I would bring God pleasure by how much I trusted Him with my daughter’s healing!

So let me summarize all this up for you.

  • Faith is not equivalent to using God as a magic genie to grant your wishes for a good life, using verses from the Bible as your lamp to rub.
  • Faith is essentially equivalent to trust.
  • You can’t trust someone you don’t know. That means in order to be able to trust God, you must get to know Him. Deeply and intimately.
  • The more you get to know God as your loving Abba (Daddy), the more you will know and experience His deep unconditional love for you, which makes it even easier to trust Him more, putting you in a wonderful circle of more love and more trust, aka “faith,” no matter what is happening in your life.

question-634903_1920 (1)And the bottom line is, whether we like it or not, trust means unanswered questions.  If we knew the answers, we would not need to trust Him. We would not have to increase our faith (our trust).

I want to encourage you to give God pleasure, by trusting Him more.  Spend time with Him, imagesCN8OJL0Nin His Word, in intimate worship, in conversations with Him. The more you do those things, the easier it will be to believe that He loves you with an extravagant love so incredible, that He would give His own life in exchange for yours.  Because that is exactly what He did!

With that kind of proof of His love, I think I can trust Him in this life to do what He knows is best for me. And so can you.

Remember those three young Hebrew men who were thrown into the fire, believing God would save them, “but if He doesn’t…”? What was that all about? Was it just an excuse in case they didn’t have enough faith (like those who tell us asking God for “His will to be done” is a cop-out for our lack of faith)? We will discuss this in the next article Is Faith Our Golden Ticket to a Good Life Part 2.

20150501_104633Gems from the Crown is a weekly blog from Crown of Glory Ministries to strengthen and encourage believers in Christ in their walk with God, especially in the areas of vision, authority, and identity. If you would like to have Gems from the Crown delivered directly to you, please click here.

 

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July 7, 2016 by Laura Diehl Leave a Comment

Don’t be a Fake

fakeDo you like people who are fake? They say one thing, but then act a totally completely different way? I know many Christian kids who are good at being fake. They give all the “right” Christian answers to the adults around them, but act totally different when they are with their friends. The word for that is “hypocrite”.

It isn’t what you know that matters, but what you do with what you know that counts. You can know the rules for spelling, but it is the actual spelling of the word that counts. You can know a math formula, but it is working out the problem correctly that counts. You can tell a friend you know how to change a flat tire because you’ve watched your dad do it, but it’s actually changing the tire that counts.

It is the same with God. You can tell someone that you are a Christian because you have been taught about God, but it is spending time with Him and getting to really know Him for yourself that counts. And that is way too important to fake!

 

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