I am going to really open myself up here. Recently I found myself crying before the Lord as the Holy Spirit showed me areas that out of my own hurts and out of my own weak and fleshly nature, I did things to my children and hurt them, which has caused them to feel rejection from me.

First, let me say as parents, we all make mistakes. There is no such thing as perfect parents. All of our parents did things that “damaged” us. We have all done things that “damage” our children. And when we turn these things over to God, He will bring healing, and help us (and our children) to be overcomers in these exact areas.

I grew up feeling rejected by my mom. I know it was not done intentionally, and I know her heart now as an adult, but as a child I just really struggled with it, as an area the enemy was able to get in and mess me up. Earlier last year, the Lord showed me it was a generational curse that needed to be broken. My mom struggled in this area with her mom, I struggled in this area with my mom, and my youngest daughter struggled in this area with me.

But even after the chain of something like this is broken, there is still the “fall-out” of the results of those actions that we still find ourselves dealing with. And often there are inner wounds that need a healing.

This particular morning, I saw where I had probably created deep wounds, especially in my daughter. I began to really cry out to God for that specifically, and literally, with many tears. I wanted to speak the Word of God over this situation, but was pretty sure there was nothing in the Bible to specifically deal with this. I continued to cry out to God until I felt a release from it.

Right now I am reading through a chronological study Bible, which means it’s not in the normal order that we’re used to. It is put together in the order of how things happened chronologically in the Bible. For instance, when reading about the week leading up to Jesus’ crucifixion, it pulls from all four of the gospels, putting the scriptures in the order of what happened. In the Old Testament when reading about David, it will throw in different parts of the book of Psalms, based on what we know was written at that time, or what might have been written during a particular time in his life.

After my time of prayer, I opened my Bible up to where my bookmark sat, and was totally stunned as I read Psalm 69:5-6, “O God, You know my foolishness; and my sins are not hidden from You.  Let not those who wait for You, O Lord GOD of hosts, be ashamed because of me; let not those who seek You be confounded because of me…” (NKJV)

That was exactly, exactly, what my heart had just been literally crying out to the Lord for; that my children will not continue to be deeply affected (ashamed or confounded) because of me and my foolishness and my past sins toward them growing up.

Since this encouraged me so much, I want to use it to encourage you in two specific ways.

1. Allow the Holy Spirit to put his finger on things in your life; areas of your foolishness and sins that have affected others.

God wants to bring healing, to both you and them.

I have a friend who is dealing with that very thing right now. She began choosing to force herself to forgive people for deeply hurting her, and within a week, God was restoring relationships that she thought were absolutely impossible to be restored.

I want to encourage you to cry out to God for forgiveness in relationships. I believe this is a time of restoration.

2.  The other thing  is to encourage you to get into the Word, because God’s Word brings freedom. God promises that his Words will not return to us void. His Words will not return to us empty. His Word will do what He sends it out to do.

God’s Word is life. When you speak His Word, and hold His Word up to Him, you are speaking His Life and His Truth.

His Word is power. His word breaks the bondages and the strongholds that are in your life.

So speak the Word. Speak it out loud. Lift it up to God, and watch Him do exactly what He says He will do.

It might not happen immediately like my friend. I know someone that has been in a situation for over three years where there have been wounds, and suffering the effects of those wounds, even though forgiveness has been given.

I know without a doubt that God gave me this Word in Psalm 69, directly related to the cry of my heart. It wasn’t a coincidence. It was the Holy Spirit, because it’s his time to bring more healing.

So I encourage you. It’s time. It’s time to speak the Word. It’s time to walk in forgiveness. And it’s time to allow God to bring restoration and healing into relationships that need this. Do your part, and then let God do His part, in His time. He is always faithful to perform His Word.

 

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I had a wonderful revelation this morning….God “gets” me.

He understands why I think the way I do. He understands why I struggle with the fears and anxieties that I do.  He understands why I have outbursts in my fleshly nature instead of yielding to the Spirit within me. That is pretty incredible. It makes sense to Him…even when things I do don’t make sense to myself.

Why do I say that? Because of what I read in Psalm 139. “O Lord, You have searched me and known me. You know my sitting down and my rising up; You understand my thoughts afar off. You comprehend my path and my lying down, and are acquainted with all my ways. For there is not a word on my tongue, but behold, O Lord, You know it altogether” (verses 1-4 NKJV).

Do you see what I saw? He gets me. He understands my thoughts. He isn’t shocked by my words or actions. He knew what I was going to say before I did. He knows me inside and out.

Those of us who have children know at times why our children are behaving the way they are.

“You need a nap!”

“You had too much sugar this afternoon at that birthday party!”

“He is teething.”

“She gets really excited when her dad comes home from work.”

“I know you are cranky because you need something to eat. Sorry I couldn’t make supper earlier.”

“Stop making excuses and get to bed!”

“Put your phone down and start your homework.”

Guess what? God doesn’t understand us just some of the time; He understands us all the time. He understands you. He understands the tears. He understands the strange thoughts. He gets why you did what you did (even if it was out of your frustration and anger). He understands the busyness that keeps your mind off of something difficult. He understands  and knows why you (and I) overeat.

He “gets” it. All of it. Because He created you, He lives inside of you, and He knows you better than you know yourself.

That doesn’t mean that if what we are thinking about or we doing is sinful that it’s okay, and we can just continue on.

What it does mean is that He doesn’t condemn us. (He convicts us through the Holy Spirit, which is different.) There is a reason we think, say, and act the way we do, and He sees and knows what those reasons are (even when we don’t).

I don’t know about you, but that is a huge relief to me. He sees and knows the deepest thoughts and motives of my heart, and loves me anyway. He loves me so much that He patiently and lovingly exposes those things to me so that I can be free of them.

And that’s what I want, too. I want to be free of the things that I allow to be excuses in my life; the things that are keeping me from living in the fullness of joy God says I can have on this earth. How about you?

God “gets” me, and He “gets” you! He sees, He knows, He understands, He loves, and He sets free!

 

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When a woman is pregnant, she is given a “due date.” How often is that baby born on that exact date? When the baby doesn’t come, does she decide that means she no longer wants it? Does she give up on it ever coming? No, of course not.

And yet, that is what we do to God, when He gives us a promise. It puts us in a place of expecting, but for some reason we think that promise should be delivered in our timing instead of His.

And we are so good at getting upset with Him for taking too long, to the point of either giving up on it, or trying to make it happen our way.

There are all kinds of examples of people in the Bible who were given promises by God, and it took a lot longer for those promises to take effect than what the person thought it would. Some people waited patiently, and some people tried to do things their own way, making a mess of things.

• The Israelites, who were led out of Egypt by Moses, ended up wandering in the wilderness for 40 years. They themselves did not go in and receive the promise of a new land. It was their children who went in to inherit God’s promise and become the nation of Israel.
• The example that seems to be the most common is Abraham and Sarah. In waiting for God to give them the promise of an heir, Abraham had sexual relations with Sarah’s maid. She conceived, had Ishmael, who was not the heir of God’s promise to Abraham, and we are still dealing with the consequences today.
• What about Noah? He was building an ark at a time where water had never fallen out of the sky. It took 100 years for him to build that ark, and to have the promised rain to fall and flood the earth.
• Even though David was anointed as King of Israel, for many years he was running for his life from Saul, before he actually sat on the throne as the king, fulfilling God’s promise to him.

Have you ever noticed when it is God’s time to make good on His promises, He often moves in  “suddenlies”? Well, it is sudden to us. He has been busy behind the scenes the whole time, doing whatever needs to be done to keep His promises on track to give to us.

Remember the disciples in the upper room? They were told to wait until the promise came to them (Acts 1:4). And when it came, it was definitely a “suddenly.”

There are people all around you who have experienced God’s “suddenly”; people who have faced a disease or infirmity such as back pain for 5, 10, or 20 years who suddenly get healed. Couples who have been infertile for many years suddenly find themselves expecting a child. People who have needed a job or been in financial hardships suddenly get the job they need.

What about those who don’t get healed, or don’t get pregnant, or don’t get that dream job? I have been hit smack in the face with that question several times.

One time was when our 3 year old daughter had bone cancer, going through nine months of chemo and had her leg amputated. The most recent was when that same daughter died, due to heart damage caused by those chemo drugs that saved her life 26 years earlier.

Believe me, I know the line, “She is healed. She received the ultimate healing and is in heaven now.” Let me just say, that is not usually a comfort to most people who are in the freshest part of deep grief, especially a parent who has so wrongly buried their child (regardless of the age of the child).

When I found myself in that horrible place, I had to ask God once again about this issue of faith and expectation. My daughter had lived through multiple life threatening health issues in the last year and a half of her life that should have killed her. It was only by God’s miraculous hand she survived several of the things she did. The goal of her medical team was to get her healthy enough to be able to receive a heart transplant, should a heart become available for her. I believed with every fiber of my being that God was going to either miraculously heal her heart, or she would get that transplant. I had seen miracle after miracle of things she lived through that should have already killed her multiple times.

As sick as she was, I felt very blindsided the night my daughter’s heart just gave out and she left this earth and transferred to her eternal home.

One day in my deep sorrow and anguish, I asked God about this. He reminded me of Hebrews chapter eleven verse six, that “without faith it is impossible to please Him.” In other words, faith brings Him pleasure. He let me know that my faith had brought Him a great amount of pleasure. I realized at that point, that faith is more than just saying what you want and getting it because of making a demand on God and His power. Faith is based on my relationship with God.

Up until that point, I had always seen faith as something I had to somehow reach out and get a hold of. I had to grow that and get more faith by reading my Bible enough, hearing enough messages, finding ways to be around God’s Word to make my faith grow. And it felt like I could just never have as much of it as I needed. And yet at the same time, I knew how much faith I had in God to heal my daughter.

God began to change my perspective on faith. In the Complete Jewish Bible version, you will never see the word faith. It is always translated as “trust”. So Hebrews 11: 6 reads, “And without trusting, it is impossible to be well pleasing to God, because whoever approaches him must trust that he does exist and that he becomes a Rewarder to those who seek him out.”

For me personally, I find it much easier to trust, then to have faith, if that makes sense. I’ve always felt like faith is something I have to conjure up. But trust is something I can just surrender to, and release myself into it. And that is where the relationship comes in. My faith in God is based on my trust in God’s Word, His faithfulness and His goodness. That means, even though my faith did not receive what I was believing for, my trust in God was rooted in my relationship with Him, so my faith was not shaken.

I am in good company. Hebrews chapter eleven is pretty much a list of many people who did not see their faith in the promises of God manifested on this side of eternity.

I have continued to expect God to keep His promises to me. And God has continued to remind me of His goodness, His faithfulness, and how much I can trust Him, with things like the birth of my next granddaughter almost one year exactly after losing my daughter from this earth. He used my sons, who would do things like surprise me with flowers, or send me incredibly encouraging text messages. Since that time, God has also birthed a ministry in me, flowing through me in such a way that I wrote my first book, followed by three more books in the same year!

God truly is good all the time. If He has given you a promise, keep expecting! Keep walking in faith that pleases Him. Trust Him! The answer to your promise can happen any day! Or it might not happen at all this side of eternity. But it WILL happen.

 

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